What should I say to her if she asks?

I'm getting a vibe and saw a couple hints already that one of my close friends likes me or so I believe. I evidently like her as well but never spilled that out to her and do not plan to anytime soon. Reason being? The way she handled things after her exbf broke up with her devastated me. By handled things, i mean she went drinking to "calm her down" and things didn't get much better from there.

Judging from the way she handled things from her last breakup, I dun want history to repeat itself if I were to be her next bf hypothetically speaking we breakup. It truly tore my heart to hear what steps she took to recover from the emotional breakup. Anyways... so what do you think I should say to her hypothetically speaking my close friend does ask me out? Should I tell her the truth on how I feel? I want to be honest to her and at the same time not hurt her feelings. Yes, I understand rejection is part of reality and it makes me feel guility or really horrible to deny an opportunity.

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Well Steven there is a much larger problem here than what you will say - it's how she is coping. Coping skills are needed to navigate through tough situations - people turn to drugs %26amp; alcohol when they have run out of coping skills. This means that even if you all got together %26amp; she never addresses this it could be an ongoing life-long problem. Whenever life were to deal you two a bad situation (which is inevitable) she may always turn to alcohol/ drugs/ gambling/ shopping (something unhealthy).

Maybe tell her that you care so so so much for her %26amp; would be interested in evolving your relationship after she has sought help. Even though she has only done this once...next it will be only twice...then it will end up being "Leave me the heck alone %26amp; I'll do what I please". She has to do some self-work around how she will deal with crappy situations. Then the two of you could have a happy healthy relationship or she can have happy healthy relationships in the future.

Good luck.

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talk to her about her last breakup. If the dude wuz really hard on her, then like a week later, tell her that for now, ur trying to figure things out, and until, u do, ya'll should just be friends.

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You should be completely honest and tell her that you are not going to lie to her. Tell her that it is not that you want to hurt her feelings, but this is how you feel. Tell her everything, she will be greatful that you can talk to her and tell her the truth on everything.
I think you just said it all right there. If you can rephrase it a little and tell her how you feel it will show how much you really care about her and why you have concerns for it going any farther.